Shortly after my Mom died I had the clear realization that Love is the answer. (I know, I know, it sounds really cliché -- but it was a real "Ah ha!" moment.) It doesn't matter what the question is -- Love is the answer. Simple enough, right? The tricky part is figuring out what Love looks like in all the different scenarios we each encounter every day.
Mom was a great unconditional Lover. She provided numerous examples throughout her life as to how unconditional Love may look in a variety of situations, and those are great food for thought for me now, but I will not know what Love looks like for me until I arrive at each of my moments.
There are a variety of definitions of unconditional Love. The one that works best for me is, unconditional Love is the purest expression of me as I am being Who I Really Am (WIRA). It means that not one person or thing or situation needs to be different in order for me to choose/perceive/feel Love. And when I choose Love I am well on my way to the answers and solutions that are in alignment with what I really want. Every time I choose something other than Love I am getting in my own way of what I really want and WIRA.
Unconditional Love could also be called peace, flow, being open, appreciation, joy, awe, surrender, or knowing. It could look like laughter, tears, hugs, smiles, compliments, encouragement, making lots of decisions, or making no decisions. And, people often experience it with babies, puppies, at weddings, or in nature.
It is not something you have to force yourself to be, it is something that naturally oozes forth from within. So, it is not about making yourself be 'nice', patient, or forgiving someone. It is not about holding my tongue, being a door mat, or disingenuous. It is the experience of "I cannot stop the immense appreciation I have for you/this situation!" It is based in the knowledge of, and faith in, WIRA and that the well-being is so much bigger than any mole hill I may be making into a mountain.
Thanks Mom for giving me The answer to all life's questions. I know I will figure out the rest.
Living On Purpose is finding my answers of Love.