We have been taught, probably ever since we have been young children, to ask permission. Realizing most things we say can have a variety of essences to them, and some essences feel much more LOPish than others, I am curious as to how I might ask for permission and LOP.
Examples:
"There is this thing I want to do, and I am not sure whether I should be doing it or not. Since you know better what is good for me, I am checking in with you -- I realize I cannot really trust myself." (Doesn't feel LOPish.)
"There is this thing I really want to do, and I don't think you are going to like it. I am letting you know now this is what I want to do, and I am pretty much going to do it no matter what you think, but I am hoping you will reluctantly say it is O.K., so I can go and do it guilt free." (Doesn't feel LOPish.)
"There is this thing I want to do, and out of respect for you, I am checking in to make sure you are in agreement with me." (Feels LOPish, but it sounds a bit more like agreement creation than asking permission.)
"There is this thing I want to do, and it involves you, would you like to join in?" (Feels quite LOPish, but I would call that an invitation more than asking permission.)
Anyone have some other ideas as to when asking permission feels LOPish?
Living On Purpose (LOP) is remembering, believing in, and expressing who we really are. This blog is the sharing of the moment by moment experience of practicing Living On Purpose . . . because we all want to feel good.
Monday 16 January 2012
Service
Posted to FaceBook Jan 16th.
One word. Quite a popular one these days. However, it seems to have at few potential essences/meanings.
We can be in service from a feeling of obligation, "That's the way we are suppose to be." Or, we can be in service from an ulterior motive, "If I help you, I will get more of this." Or, we can be in service LOP.
LOP service is knowing that who I really am (WIRA) has value, and that value will contribute to the world in ways I won't be able to fathom, plan, or figure out. And so, by me being WIRA as best I can in every moment, and adding my unique value to the mixture of the whole, I am in service in a way I will probably never be able to completely comprehend.
I don't think Mozart wrote his music so that we would have something to listen to today? I don't think Jesus shared what he knew so that a number of people all over the world would gather Sunday mornings? And you might say, "Yes, but I am no Mozart or Jesus." But then I would remind us that Jesus believed, " . . . anyone who has faith . . . will do what I have been doing. He will do even greater things than these, . . ." (John 14:12)
One word. Quite a popular one these days. However, it seems to have at few potential essences/meanings.
We can be in service from a feeling of obligation, "That's the way we are suppose to be." Or, we can be in service from an ulterior motive, "If I help you, I will get more of this." Or, we can be in service LOP.
LOP service is knowing that who I really am (WIRA) has value, and that value will contribute to the world in ways I won't be able to fathom, plan, or figure out. And so, by me being WIRA as best I can in every moment, and adding my unique value to the mixture of the whole, I am in service in a way I will probably never be able to completely comprehend.
I don't think Mozart wrote his music so that we would have something to listen to today? I don't think Jesus shared what he knew so that a number of people all over the world would gather Sunday mornings? And you might say, "Yes, but I am no Mozart or Jesus." But then I would remind us that Jesus believed, " . . . anyone who has faith . . . will do what I have been doing. He will do even greater things than these, . . ." (John 14:12)
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