A feeling of agreement means I am relaxing into and believing who I really am (WIRA).
A feeling of defensiveness means I am not really believing in WIRA.
Living On Purpose (LOP) is remembering, believing in, and expressing who we really are. This blog is the sharing of the moment by moment experience of practicing Living On Purpose . . . because we all want to feel good.
Monday 6 February 2012
Same Eyes
Posted to Facebook Feb 6.
The eyes through which I see others are the eyes through which I see myself. Every perception is relative to the perceiver. Every perception is filtered through our beliefs, our values, our habits, our degree of faith, our ability to unconditionally accept, and our experiences. So . . .
If I condemn someone, I am looking at myself through the same condemning eyes.
If I am in resistance about another, I will resist parts of me as well.
If I feel others are not contributing enough, I will wonder if I am enough.
If I worry about another, I will worry even when things go well.
If I resent someone's wealth, I will see it as wrong for me to be wealthy.
If I feel sorry for another, I will have a story of woe too.
If I easily become frustrated with others, I will easily become frustrated with myself.
If I don't feel like I get enough attention from someone, I am running short with Me as well.
If I am able to see the value in another, I will be able to find it in myself.
If I know we are all doing the best we know how, I will be more patient with me as well
If I can see someone's abilities, I will see the talents of myself.
If I can give someone the space to be who they really are, I will discover my genius self.
If I can believe when there is no evidence, I will be the first to spot the answer when it arrives.
If I can feel at peace with other's choices, I will be able to believe in mine as well.
If I can love you (because I am a lover), I will see I am lovable too.
If I can let go of controlling the world, I will relax about both me and you.
The eyes through which I see others are the eyes through which I see myself. Every perception is relative to the perceiver. Every perception is filtered through our beliefs, our values, our habits, our degree of faith, our ability to unconditionally accept, and our experiences. So . . .
If I condemn someone, I am looking at myself through the same condemning eyes.
If I am in resistance about another, I will resist parts of me as well.
If I feel others are not contributing enough, I will wonder if I am enough.
If I worry about another, I will worry even when things go well.
If I resent someone's wealth, I will see it as wrong for me to be wealthy.
If I feel sorry for another, I will have a story of woe too.
If I easily become frustrated with others, I will easily become frustrated with myself.
If I don't feel like I get enough attention from someone, I am running short with Me as well.
If I am able to see the value in another, I will be able to find it in myself.
If I know we are all doing the best we know how, I will be more patient with me as well
If I can see someone's abilities, I will see the talents of myself.
If I can give someone the space to be who they really are, I will discover my genius self.
If I can believe when there is no evidence, I will be the first to spot the answer when it arrives.
If I can feel at peace with other's choices, I will be able to believe in mine as well.
If I can love you (because I am a lover), I will see I am lovable too.
If I can let go of controlling the world, I will relax about both me and you.
Sunday 5 February 2012
Evolving Beliefs
They say that a major part of our belief system is suppose to be formed by the very young age of five or so years. And unless I update my beliefs about life and myself, I remain at the level I was when I was five.
I know all beliefs are originally formulated with perfect intention and are completely logical for us in that moment. However, it is possible that by the next day/month/year/decade, that belief may no longer be serving me, and it will be time to update it so that it continues to serve me instead of holding me back and getting in my way.
Updating our beliefs can be challenging because we can become very fond of them -- that's why we sometimes call them our cherished beliefs. We cherish them because at one point they were so right for us, they felt so good, they were so perfect for supporting us in taking that next step in becoming more of who we really are (WIRA). As I evolve and grow and ask more questions and see things clearer and clearer, and understand WIRA more and more, those beliefs are going to need to grow and change as well.
So something like standing up for myself, creating boundaries, taking care of myself so I don't feel like a door mat, might have been absolutely perfect at one point. But I most likely will arrive at a time when I find those once helpful boundaries, that helped me take care of myself, are now actually imprisoning me. I may find I am ready to move forward because I am stronger and clearer and no longer require a fortress to be confident and committed to WIRA, and speak my truth. I may come to a place where I realize that those boundaries are now keeping out the very things I am now ready to have come into my life. And if I am really ready to move forward I will hear the call to walk out past that once desired protection. I will have arrived at a place where I know that my power comes not from those walls I have built around me, but from the strength of me knowing WIRA.
LOP is knowing when a once helpful belief is ready to retire and make room for the evolved new one, so that I can continue my journey of expressing all of WIRA.
I know all beliefs are originally formulated with perfect intention and are completely logical for us in that moment. However, it is possible that by the next day/month/year/decade, that belief may no longer be serving me, and it will be time to update it so that it continues to serve me instead of holding me back and getting in my way.
Updating our beliefs can be challenging because we can become very fond of them -- that's why we sometimes call them our cherished beliefs. We cherish them because at one point they were so right for us, they felt so good, they were so perfect for supporting us in taking that next step in becoming more of who we really are (WIRA). As I evolve and grow and ask more questions and see things clearer and clearer, and understand WIRA more and more, those beliefs are going to need to grow and change as well.
So something like standing up for myself, creating boundaries, taking care of myself so I don't feel like a door mat, might have been absolutely perfect at one point. But I most likely will arrive at a time when I find those once helpful boundaries, that helped me take care of myself, are now actually imprisoning me. I may find I am ready to move forward because I am stronger and clearer and no longer require a fortress to be confident and committed to WIRA, and speak my truth. I may come to a place where I realize that those boundaries are now keeping out the very things I am now ready to have come into my life. And if I am really ready to move forward I will hear the call to walk out past that once desired protection. I will have arrived at a place where I know that my power comes not from those walls I have built around me, but from the strength of me knowing WIRA.
LOP is knowing when a once helpful belief is ready to retire and make room for the evolved new one, so that I can continue my journey of expressing all of WIRA.
Control Versus Creating
When I do life with the underlying goal of being in control, and my objective is to get everything taken care of, there seems to be a lingering fear of stuff that might happen and get in my way of achieving the goal of having everything done. I believe that feeling is what is sometimes referred to as 'the other shoe'.
When I do life with the underlying goal of creating, and evolving, and discovering, and exploring, that 'other shoe' feeling seems to disappear. I seem to be enthralled by the inspirations I am excited to get to next.
I guess that is what 'they' mean when they say "intention is everything." I can go through life either motivated by fear or inspired by passion. You know which one I am going to say is LOP.
When I do life with the underlying goal of creating, and evolving, and discovering, and exploring, that 'other shoe' feeling seems to disappear. I seem to be enthralled by the inspirations I am excited to get to next.
I guess that is what 'they' mean when they say "intention is everything." I can go through life either motivated by fear or inspired by passion. You know which one I am going to say is LOP.
My Truth is True
Posted to Facebook Feb. 8th.
I recently participated in an exercise that was shared with the best of intentions of creating an insightful point. My initial experience of it fell short of the expected insight, however my learning from it did lead to immense peace.
At one point in the process of this exercise I was asked to share my opinion on something. As I am getting better and better at listening to who I really am (WIRA), I went inside and challenged myself to answer as honestly as I could. I wanted to not water down WIRA, to not be looking for an answer I might think they are looking for, to not try and give the best answer, to not try and justify or be worthy, but to just answer honestly.
When I gave my answer I could immediatelyy feel by the reaction it was not the answer they had wanted, not what had been expected -- it was not the 'right' answer. As the exercise continued to unfold it was implied that the answer I had given was evidence of some not so great things about me.
I walked away with a not good feeling from the exercise. It felt like I was being told that I could not trust myself, like I was wrong for trusting my guidance when I had felt very clear and honest about my answer. The feeling I was left with from this exercise reminded me of another time in my life, when I was very young, and I had shared my truth with someone, and they had said that it was impossible.
How can my truth be impossible? How can something that I know is an honest expression of me, be wrong? The answer is, it can't. What was feeling terrible in both situations was I was believing the other person over me. And, not feeling good in these situations is a good thing, I am suppose to feel yucky when I am off my path.
So, I appreciate both instances in my life, for them so kindly reminding me that my work is to trust myself. My answers may not seem like the right answer to others, or they may think my truths are impossible, and they may choose to have opinions of me because of them. But when I am LOP, and honoring My truth, their opinions become observations, and I sit in a place of peace of knowing Me.
I recently participated in an exercise that was shared with the best of intentions of creating an insightful point. My initial experience of it fell short of the expected insight, however my learning from it did lead to immense peace.
At one point in the process of this exercise I was asked to share my opinion on something. As I am getting better and better at listening to who I really am (WIRA), I went inside and challenged myself to answer as honestly as I could. I wanted to not water down WIRA, to not be looking for an answer I might think they are looking for, to not try and give the best answer, to not try and justify or be worthy, but to just answer honestly.
When I gave my answer I could immediatelyy feel by the reaction it was not the answer they had wanted, not what had been expected -- it was not the 'right' answer. As the exercise continued to unfold it was implied that the answer I had given was evidence of some not so great things about me.
I walked away with a not good feeling from the exercise. It felt like I was being told that I could not trust myself, like I was wrong for trusting my guidance when I had felt very clear and honest about my answer. The feeling I was left with from this exercise reminded me of another time in my life, when I was very young, and I had shared my truth with someone, and they had said that it was impossible.
How can my truth be impossible? How can something that I know is an honest expression of me, be wrong? The answer is, it can't. What was feeling terrible in both situations was I was believing the other person over me. And, not feeling good in these situations is a good thing, I am suppose to feel yucky when I am off my path.
So, I appreciate both instances in my life, for them so kindly reminding me that my work is to trust myself. My answers may not seem like the right answer to others, or they may think my truths are impossible, and they may choose to have opinions of me because of them. But when I am LOP, and honoring My truth, their opinions become observations, and I sit in a place of peace of knowing Me.
The 'Buck' Stops Here
Posted to Facebook Feb. 5th
This past week I experienced a not good feeling. I interpreted an experience as someone judging me/having a perception of me that didn't feel good. It felt like they wanted me to be different, that I was not good enough the way I am. I did not like it at all.
I later caught myself doing the same thing to someone else. I was judging them, wanting them to be different, feeling that the way they were being was not good enough. When I recognized what I had done, I liked that even less. I had done/become exactly that which had not felt good to me.
When I realized what I had done the words resounded through my head, "The buck stops here." I had a powerful wave flow over me, a decision, that I never again want to pass on the judgements or perceptions or lack of belief in someone, even if that is what someone is passing on to me. Wherever an untrue story has started, and has been passed on from, it stops with me. I have that option, that choice, that power.
The place of transformation, the 'miracle', can start with me.
This past week I experienced a not good feeling. I interpreted an experience as someone judging me/having a perception of me that didn't feel good. It felt like they wanted me to be different, that I was not good enough the way I am. I did not like it at all.
I later caught myself doing the same thing to someone else. I was judging them, wanting them to be different, feeling that the way they were being was not good enough. When I recognized what I had done, I liked that even less. I had done/become exactly that which had not felt good to me.
When I realized what I had done the words resounded through my head, "The buck stops here." I had a powerful wave flow over me, a decision, that I never again want to pass on the judgements or perceptions or lack of belief in someone, even if that is what someone is passing on to me. Wherever an untrue story has started, and has been passed on from, it stops with me. I have that option, that choice, that power.
The place of transformation, the 'miracle', can start with me.
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