"Love You!" A statement we hear and use a lot. It's everywhere in our daily lives. It's in our movies and books and songs and paintings. Some spend much of their energy, time, and money trying to get it. Some seem to have lots, others seem to constantly yearn for it. So what are we really saying when we say "Love You"?
Well, "Love You!" probably changes from person to person, from circumstance to circumstance, from moment to moment, but here are some possibilities. We say, "Love you!" when . . .
-- we are really saying, "Thanks for being the way I need you to be in order for me to feel good."
-- we are trying to make someone feel better so that we can feel better.
-- we see someone being their natural, beautiful, genius self and we have so much appreciation for them in that moment as they share with us who they really are.
-- we are wanting acceptance and love and we think that if we say it we might get some back.
-- we are really saying, "I appreciate what we have together."
-- it is habit and we didn't even realize we just said it.
-- we are really comfortable with the way things are and we want to keep someone from changing or rocking our boat.
-- we are not needing anyone to earn it, we just love because we are a lover.
-- we feel guilty for something we did and we are trying to make up for it.
-- our hearts are so full we can not help but let it spill out to those who are around us.
LOP isn't about judging one of the above as being better than the other -- you'll know if it is right for you by the way it feels. LOP is about being aware of why I am saying "Love you", and how I am saying it, and if it is really what I am meaning to say, and practicing love the way I want it to be in my life.
Love You!